You’re not supporting them—you’re rescuing them from the growth they need.
And it’s costing you everything.
The reason your relationship feels stuck isn’t because they’re broken—it’s because you keep trying to control their journey instead of mastering your own.
That’s why it hurts so much.
You’re exhausted because you keep trying to manage someone else’s choices, reactions, timing, and healing.
You obsess over what they “should” be doing. You think if they just saw what you see, felt what you feel, acted how you act, things would finally “click.”
Here’s the brutal truth: people don’t grow on your timeline.
People grow through their own chaos, their own breakdowns, their own moments of reckoning. You don’t get to shortcut their evolution just to soothe your anxiety. That’s not love—it’s ego, attachment, and fear dressed up in good intentions.
Every time you complain about what they’re not doing... every time you blame them for why you’re unhappy... you reinforce yourself in your reality, the illusion that your peace depends on them. Mic drop.
That’s the real mental, emotional prison. Not the relationship, not their behavior—your thinking. You’re living in a mental loop where you keep trying to control the uncontrollable, and calling it “trying to make it work.”
But nothing will change until you stop trying to drag someone into awareness, and start owning and take responsibility your part in the dynamic that’s draining you.
Your imaginary world.
This is the work.
The uncomfortable, confronting, radically liberating work.
Want out of the loop?
Stop trying to fix them.
Start upgrading your own thinking.
That’s where the real shift begins.
If you're ready to stop making their pain your prison… if you're ready to stop losing yourself trying to save someone who needs to stumble first… then we need to talk. Because real, committed relationships aren’t about fixing the other person. They’re about waking up to your own level of thinking—and realizing that’s what’s been running the show.
Reach out when you’re ready to leave the mental prison behind, and create a life you enjoy!