If You’re Sitting There, that's Not Enough.
Presence isn’t about proximity—it’s about priority. Too many couples think showing up is enough. But presence without purpose is a ghost. It leaves your partner feeling alone, even when you’re in the same room.
Being alone and lonely are not the same.
Presence is not just physically being in the same space; it is your energy and the beliefs you have about that other person and the time shared together. If you're thinking and believing it's "boring" "dull" "uncomfortable" or a "chore" it's felt by the other person, is that the energy, vibe or feeling you want to receive? That being with you is boring, dull, uncomfortable and annoying? I didn't think so!
Put out the energy you want mirrored back. Lead the dance we call relationships and consider the energy you want in return and bring that to every interaction.
Time and presence is the most precious and valuable thing you can gift someone.
Numerous couples operate under the misconception that mere attendance suffices. "We spend time together every night on the couch watching tv and scrolling". Yikes! That's not quality time!
Without intentional engagement and the energy of how sacred and precious time is, presence becomes an empty gesture, akin to a specter. This absence of genuine connection can lead your partner to experience solitude, even when you occupy the same space.
Committed relationships don’t fall apart overnight—they erode through small neglects. Being early, being present, showing up with intention—these are not just niceties. They’re non-negotiables. They say you matter, and I’m not here out of habit, I’m here because I choose you. When you treat your partner’s time like it’s sacred, you’re not just respecting them—you’re reinforcing the bond.
If this hits something raw, good. That means it’s real. Want to learn how to bring this kind of presence into your relationship? Reach out. Let’s talk.