What’s one life lesson you had to learn the hard way?
You know, the kind that left a bruise and a breakthrough.
Share your story below—your wisdom might be exactly what someone else needs to hear today.
The more we love ourselves, the more we accept ourselves. And the more we accept ourselves, the happier we become.
Self-love is the root of it all.
When we love ourselves, we have more to give.
When we love others, we feel more connected.
And when we feel connected—we thrive.
You can read all the books, try every communication hack, do the date nights, and still feel like something’s off. Like you’re trying to hold it all together while something underneath keeps unraveling. That’s because it’s not about fixing the surface—it’s about facing what’s under it.
And most people never do.
They resist it.
Avoid it.
Go ahead and pretend it’s not there-that’s exactly what keeps it alive.
Let’s get brutally honest—your relationship isn’t suffering because they don’t see your worth.
It’s suffering because you do not see your worthiness.
You say you want respect, peace, connection—but you don’t protect your time, you let personal boundaries slide, you're putting your self care on the back burner and you keep silencing your truth to “keep the peace” (which really just means keeping things quiet). That’s not love—that’s self-neglect.
You're setting the tone and example for how you deserve to be treated.
If you don't honor and respect yourself, don't expect others to step in and do it for you!
Mentally resilient individuals understand that true happiness comes from within. Look if we believe happiness is out of reach or outside of use we are setting ourselves up for a life of envy, suffering and comparison.
The happiest most successful people focus their energy on what they can control and don’t allow external factors to have the light switch to their strength, happiness or well-being.
High performing individuals in their professional and personal life know that challenges are a part of life and see them as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to their happiness. Instead of fixating on what they lack or what others may think, they nurture a sense of internal gratitude for their experiences, both good and bad. This perspective enables them to cultivate a mindset that is adaptable, fluid and open to change.
Mentally resilient individuals practice self-compassion. They recognize that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed…
If you’re waiting for life to get easier before you make a change, you’re already losing.
Mentally strong people don’t tiptoe around discomfort—they invite it. Growth doesn’t happen inside your comfort zone; it happens when you stop making excuses, stop blaming, stop complaining, stop resisting change, and lean into the hard things.
You can either stay the same and keep recycling the same problems, or you can face the temporary discomfort that leads to real transformation.
The people who truly win in life aren’t the ones who avoid hard conversations, shy away from challenges, or numb themselves when things get tough. They embrace discomfort as fuel. They know that uncertainty, failure, and growth pains aren’t punishments—they’re proof that they’re evolving. The only thing worse than change is staying stuck in a life that doesn’t fulfill you.
So ask yourself:
(And If You Can’t, That’s Why You’re Stuck)
Let’s cut through the fluff. You’re either moving forward or wasting time feeling sorry for yourself—there’s no in-between.
And I know that sentence might sting, but hear me out: mentally strong people don’t sit around nursing their wounds, collecting sympathy like it’s some kind of currency. They deal, they adapt, and they move the hell on.
Your pain is valid, everyone's is, it's a product of the thoughts you are believing internally.
The pity party is optional.
Most people blame their job, their partner, their stress, their past. Let’s be real—the biggest enemy is the narrative running in your head.
The problem isn’t: Your boss. Your childhood. Your schedule.
The problem is how you think about these things. Change your thoughts, and you change the way you experience life.
The problem is how you think about these things happening in your life that are neutral, the meaning you're making out of it, and making it personal.
Change your thoughts, and you change the way you experience life.
Let’s be brutally honest—being “too busy” is the most socially acceptable form of avoidance there is, I said it.
"I'm busy" sounds productive, it sounds admirable, and it even lets you off the hook. But in reality, it’s nothing more than a distraction from facing what actually matters.
Doing the things you said you'd do.
Doing the things you know will benefit you.
Doing the things that will get you closer to what you're wanting from life.
Most people wake up every day and hit repeat. Same thoughts. Same doubts. Same excuses. Same stories.
Same complaining. Same blaming. And then they wonder why their life never changes.
You’re not stuck. You’re just too comfortable with your own limitations. You’ve been running the same mental programming for years, and your brain is addicted to it. Why? Because the brain doesn’t care if you’re happy—it cares if you’re alive and safe. The discomfort is familiar and safe.
Your brain loves autopilot. It thrives on patterns. It doesn’t want you to question the script—it wants you to follow it. Even if that script keeps you broke, single, anxious, miserable or unfulfilled. Because familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar change. Change scares you more.
So here’s the hard pill to swallow:
A team is more than just a collection of individuals who happen to work together at the same time and place.
A true team is comprised of diverse individuals who come together with a shared passion and commitment to collaborate towards achieving their organization's objectives and fulfilling its mission. They recognize, value and appreciate each other's unique strengths and perspectives, valuing the contributions that each person brings to the team. This diversity allows for a broader range of ideas and perspectives, leading to more creative and innovative solutions. By creating a safe space to share ideas, from the wild and unconventional to the logical and practical, team members can freely express themselves without fear of judgment. This open exchange of ideas fosters a culture of creativity and collaboration, where brainstorming sessions are dynamic and productive.
A strong healthy team works together seamlessly, leveraging each other's strengths and talents to achieve…
If your mind is attached to believing that things have to be a different way for you to be OK, that's living powerlessly.
This mindset can be limiting and prevent you from fully embracing your current reality.
We often find ourselves unable to truly flourish and live in the present moment when our minds are constantly occupied with thoughts of the future and the past. It's like a never-ending game of ping pong, with our thoughts bouncing back and forth between what has already happened and what is yet to come.
A game of constant mental ping pong can leave us feeling disconnected from the present and unable to fully engage with the world around us right here and now.
By letting go of the need for things to be a certain way, thinking and believing "I will be happy when____" keeps your mind in an illusion of the future.
As a leader, it's important to periodically take a step back and conduct a leadership reality check. It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day tasks and responsibilities of leading a team, but taking the time to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses can greatly benefit both you and your employees.
One way to gain valuable insight into your leadership style is to ask your employees for feedback. This can be frightening, as it requires vulnerability and openness to criticism, but the benefits far outweigh any discomfort. By asking three of your employees(or others that you lead, could be family members, people in an organization you're leading or managing) the following questions, you can gain a better understanding of where you excel and where you may need to improve:
1. Where do you see me struggle?
This question opens the door for honest feedback from your employees. They may…
Avoiding difficult conversations, emotions, or situations often leads to more significant problems down the road, intensifying stress and unease.
It is important to address these challenging aspects of life head-on, as ignoring them only allows them to fester and grow.
By confronting discomfort and working through it, you can ultimately find a sense of resolution and peace.
It feels good to clear the air. When we lean in and see that by doing so we are indeed safe, and the clarity brings forward a sense of relief and empowerment. Embracing discomfort is a big part of growth and development allowing us to build resilience and strength. It is through facing our fears and discomforts that we can truly learn and evolve.
The more you seek the uncomfortable, the more you will become comfortable. -Conor McGregor
Understanding is not just about comprehending information, but it is also about empathizing with others.
Empathy: the ability to sense other people's emotions, coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling.
It allows us to truly connect with people on a deeper level and build meaningful relationships. When we take the time to listen and seek to understand what others are going through, we show them that we care and value their experiences.
Think back to the most recent sit down meal you had with other people. Who asked questions? Did anyone? What I mean is did someone share an experience they had and then it went around the table or back and forth sharing same or similar stories, or were there people asking questions of that person that shared their story?
Questions such as..
The language we use plays a crucial role in shaping our perception of the world around us. It acts as a powerful tool that can either propel us towards our goals or hinder our progress. It will also draw in and attract or repel and turn off opportunities.
The way we articulate our thoughts and feelings about ourselves, our experiences, and the people in our lives can create a harmonious narrative that reflects our values and beliefs.
When we choose to use language that is uplifting, magnetic, and charming, we are more likely to attract positive people, opportunities and experiences into our lives. On the other hand, if we constantly complain, blaming others, and justifying our circumstances, we may unknowingly push away potential opportunities and the support of others.
It is important to note that simply pretending to be positive without genuinely believing in our own words is not a…
One of the most important things you can do today to set yourself up for success tomorrow in your role as a leader is to focus on inspiring and motivating your team.
In today's ever-evolving business landscape, staying ahead of the curve is crucial for success. As a leader, it is your responsibility to inspire and motivate your team to embrace continuous learning and growth. By staying updated on industry trends, new technology, efficiency techniques, and best practices, you can empower your team to adapt and thrive in an ever-changing environment.
Embrace change, stay open to new ideas, and lead your team towards success through continuous learning. If you're not growing, learning and evolving your competition certainly will and where will that leave you?
Leading by example is key in fostering a culture of continuous learning within your team. Show your team that you are open to change and willing…
Motivation is a powerful force that drives us towards our goals and dreams. It is the fuel that keeps us going when times get tough and obstacles seem insurmountable. In order to generate motivation, it is crucial to have a clear and easily understandable goal in mind. This goal should be something that you truly deeply believe in and are passionate about.
Believing in yourself is another key component to finding motivation. Self-doubt and negative self-talk are major roadblocks on the path to success. If the language, thoughts, and words that you use to describe this venture you're setting out to do are disempowering and debilitating, the drive and motivation will fade within two weeks. Human being can't sustain doing things that are dreadful and painful for more than 2 weeks with zero belief in themselves and the mission.
By cultivating a strong sense of self-belief and confidence, you can…
These two aspects are essential in helping to drive me towards my goal. First having a goal. I see goals as differnt than dreams beacuse goals have a time and a measurement. Anyone can have dream, such as building a business or loosing weight. However, when we attach a time and measurement, such as I will weigh 185 pounds on July 1, 2025 or I will earn 250,000 per year each, these become goals. Having this clear goals helps to move me toward something tangible. If the overall goals is great, it is helpful to break this in to chunks that are managable, and can be celebrated with enthusiasm, which is the next part of maintaining motivation.
Secondly, Believing in ourself requires replacing old limiting thought that have held us back in the past by using an assets perspective. We all have many good thing that we have done to get to this point and focusing on these will help us to grow in other direction. What I concentrate on in life grows and what I turn away from diminishes. Also, I need to replace the negative thoughts I had wth thoughts that are of equal or greater emotional intensity five time for each negative thought I had. An important way to apply emotional intensity to our self talk is through physioogical mean. For example, by ading strong emotionally charged positive statements exclaimed at the top of my lungs, while jumping up and down help to implant these deeper into my subconsious more quickly.. I am willing to do this because I realize in the past I was willing to exclaim profanity at the top of my lungs with emotion when things did not go well.
Every day presents us with new opportunities to expand our knowledge, explore different perspectives, and challenge ourselves to grow. It may not always be apparent in the moment, but when we take a step back and reflect on our journey, the progress we have made becomes evident.
Everyone we come into contact with can teach us something.
Looking back 5 or 10 years, we can see how much our experiences, skills, and understanding have evolved. For those of us who are passionate about learning, like myself, the transformation over the past decade is truly remarkable. It's a reminder that growth is a continuous process, and that each day brings us closer to becoming the best version of ourselves.
What do you love to learn about, understand at a deeper level?
What's something you're passionate about and for awhile wanted to explore more about it?
What truly sets you apart as a leader is not simply the title you hold, but rather the qualities and characteristics you embody.
Your integrity, actions, attitude, and behaviors all play a crucial role in defining your leadership.
Leadership is not just about holding a title or position of authority; it goes beyond that. It is about embodying clear values, passion, and drive in everything you do. It is about being a role model, inspiring others, and showing emotional intelligence. It is about leading by example with consistency and integrity, setting yourself apart as a leader worth following.
True success lies in finding harmony between striving for excellence and savoring every playful moment.
When your actions align with your values, when you bring passion and drive to your work, when you serve as a role model and inspire others, when you demonstrate emotional intelligence, and when you lead with consistency…
(allow me to rant a little)First off, let's make sure we understand what personal boundaries are. Social media has twisted them into rules that we create and demand, dictating that other people follow, memorize, and comply with. That's being a controlling dictator. Not helpful for you or your relationships.
Your personal boundaries are guidelines, routines, procedures, and processes that guard and protect your mental, emotional, and or physical health first and foremost. That's it. That simple. I like to call them rules; however, the connotation or meaning of "rules" is different for everyone. For me, I like rules, or if it helps, it's like the bumpers they put in the bowling alley for the kids to learn how to bowl. No one needs to know what your personal boundaries are. In fact, I like to keep them to myself, sort of like a game. The reason is if I share…
Promote and encourage improved self-care within your team, encompassing mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.
If you're a leader are you leading by example?
Are you modeling behaviors that show and prove that setting yourself up for success and by prioritizing healthy sleep, exercise, balancing your work and free time, eating healthfully, and prioritizing self-care practices?
Are you asking your team members as a group and individually what plans they have near and far that they look forward to?
Are you checking in with them to ensure they are getting the support they need in all areas of their life?
How would you make the next ten years the best part of your life?
How would you set yourself up for success on a daily basis.
What habits and routines will support this journey?
What would support your mental, emotional, and physical well-being towards what it is that you want, envision, imagine and desire?
Whether you choose to focus on improving your mental health through mindfulness practices, prioritizing self-care for emotional well-being, or committing to a regular exercise routine for physical health, the key is consistency and dedication.
The power of language cannot be underestimated.
Your choice (conscious or non-conscious) of words not only reflects your thoughts and beliefs, but it also has the ability to shape your reality.
By consciously selecting different words, you can open yourself up to experiencing a whole new reality.
Choice is present in the moment if you're awake, coming off autopilot and see that you have greater power in deeper awareness.
Become mindful of the words you use, expand your vocabulary, and with compassion and curiosity see what words and phrases need upgrading.
It's easy to fall into the trap of building up scenarios in our minds, expecting things to play out a certain way, and then feeling let down when reality doesn't align with those expectations. This can lead to a cycle of frustration and negativity that not only affects ourselves but also those around us.
When we hold onto rigid expectations and refuse to allow for any deviation from our preconceived notions, we limit our ability to fully experience and appreciate the present moment. By letting go of the need for things to be a certain way and embracing the unknown, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for growth.
"The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow, and loses today." Seneca
Being flexible, adaptable, fluid, open and curious to what ever happens will fuel a more enriching and fulfilling life. It allows us to adapt…
Your own personal example is the most powerful leadership tool you possess. Whether you are at work or home, you likely lead by example and model behaviors in some area of your life. The best and most effective way to steer the team you lead is by setting an example that others can follow. This involves demonstrating through your actions what it means to you to prioritize mental, emotional, and physical health.
What you value and what is most important is obvious by your actions.
A strong leader not only focuses on achieving their own goals but also on helping their team members to grow and succeed. By showing that you have a healthy relationship with yourself, with life, and with work, you can inspire others to do the same. It's about showing that you can work hard and play harder, balancing both aspects of life successfully.
Leadership is not…
If what you are doing or saying yes to is costing you your Peace of Mind, then it's simply too expensive.
Life is incredibly short and precious, so it's important to prioritize your own needs and well-being first and foremost.
Before your "mind" jumps in and adds its two cents and convinces you that this is a selfish concept, let me remind you that by showing up to the people that you deeply care about, giving them your scraps and leftovers exhausted, grumpy, and depleted, you are not truly showing up for them in the way they deserve.
This often leads to surface-level relationships, where you're spread so thin you're not developing deep, rich connections because your bandwidth is so used up. Taking care of yourself and prioritizing your own well-being allows you to show up as your best self for those you care about. It's not selfish, it's actually…
Imagine a life where you no longer carry the weight of a thought that makes you feel powerless.
Picture yourself free from the constraints of self-doubt and limitation.
Consider the possibilities that would open up to you if you were able to let go of this belief that holds you back.
Visualize the potential for growth, confidence, and empowerment that could be created in your life once you release yourself from the grip of this negative thought.
Envision the transformation that could occur as you embrace a new mindset that is filled with strength, optimism, and determination.
There are so many things you might want to say.
Out of curiosity would they listen? (smile)
Here's some ideas to get the ball rolling, add ones you think of in the comments.. can't wait to read what you come up with!
That thing you’re stressing over? You won’t even remember it in five years.” chill and enjoy this stage of your life. Seriously.
Focus on yourself, your thoughts, feelings, actions, stop trying to impress people that will likely not be in your life within a year.
Food, gambling, shopping, scrolling, drugs, disconnecting and alcohol are often seen as the source of many issues, but in reality, they can be the solution to underlying problems.
Many individuals often find themselves seeking solace in these substances as a means to disconnect from reality, avoid facing their problems, and find temporary relief from the overwhelming emotions such as stress, anxiety, and other inner struggles they may be experiencing.
These things offer a quick and easy escape, providing a brief sense of euphoria that helps them momentarily forget about their troubles. Unfortunately, relying on these substances as a coping mechanism can lead to a cycle of dependency and further exacerbate the underlying issues that are causing distress. Our brain will pull us towards anything that feels good and familiar. And our "mind" will fight us in changing anything that brings a good feeling and provides comfort.
When we find ourselves…
Understanding and being aware of your beliefs allows you to make conscious decisions, aligning your actions, gain a greater sense of control of your thought feeling cycle and fuel with what truly matters to you.
Learning and developing your beliefs can lead to a deeper sense of fulfillment and purpose in your life.
It is important to be conscious of your obvious and not so obvious beliefs and values in order to live authentically and intentionally.
The obvious beliefs are the ones that you are aware of and know about yourself, well meaning friends and family may point them out to you too now and then. The not so obvious ones take someone like me, detached from your life to point out your blind spots. Family and friends are likely afraid to point them out for they may trigger insecurities and harm the connection. A coach, like me , can…
People who rarely receive criticism often struggle to see it as a valuable tool for growth and development.
Feedback isn't personal. Unless we make it that way.
Words from another have no meaning until we make it mean something.
Insecurities and suffering occur when we believe a part of it, even 1% of what is said is true.
Think about it, assuming you do not have purple hair, if you and me were walking down a busy street and never met and I suddenly pass you and point at your hair and said "I hate your F***ing purple hair", would you be hurt, offended, embarrassed, ashamed, or angry? Not likely, you'd think "wow she's nuts". There's not even 2% truth in my statement.
For me living courageously means facing my fears, leaning into them with curiosity and taking risks in order to grow and adapt to new levels, building resilience and strength.
Courage means stepping outside of the comfort zone and challenging ourselves to grow and evolve.
For some, being courageous may mean speaking up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the status quo. For others, it may mean making a bold career move or starting a new venture. For others it might mean saying no for the first time. Others it might be leaving a job that's been unfulfilling for a long time. It could mean for some leaving a relationship that's been stuck for years or decades.
When we live courageously, our actions are a reflection of our deepest morals, values, principles, and beliefs. Very few people know without a doubt what these are, and are stuck…
When we look deeper at how our thoughts affect our lives, it's clear that our beliefs play a big role in making our wishes come true. It's not just about wishing for something to happen, it's not making a wish board, journaling every night, it's working on truly believing in the possibility of it coming true. Every word we speak, every thought we think, and every emotion we feel carries a certain energy that can either attract or repel what we want in our lives.
When we deeply believe in anything we can clearly see what actions to take daily to get, obtain, have or create what it is that we want for ourselves.
Take a moment to reflect on how you talk about the things you value, cherish, and aspire to. Are your words and beliefs aligned with your deepest desires?
We funny humans can want a lot of…
Time passes by no matter what and leaves you with either results or regret.
Time never pausing for anyone or anything. It is during these fleeting moments that we are presented with the opportunity to either embrace the outcomes of our actions or be burdened with the weight of regret. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it is easy to get caught up in the chaos and lose sight of what truly matters.
Time is a precious gift, the most valuable resource we have that should not be squandered.
Each passing moment is a chance to show appreciation, express love, and extend gratitude to those who enrich our lives. Whether it be a simple thank you, a heartfelt gesture, or a kind word, these small acts of kindness can have a profound impact on those around us.
Life is full of uncertainties, grief, love, fear, excitement and surprises,…
Building a strong love for yourself and life is important and can make your life better in many ways.
When you prioritize your own needs and set personal boundaries that honor and guard your mental, emotional and physical health, you are investing in your overall well-being.
When we place boulders in our schedule that honor and prioritize our needs first and foremost, and let the rest of life fall in the left over gaps, we show up with a full battery and bandwidth. We are able to give our best selves to those around us, rather than running on empty and feeling depleted, hoping that there will be time left in the day to do the things that recharge us. This belief is giving other people the best parts of you, and you're left with the scraps or leftovers.
By setting person boundaries(rules or in other words, parameters), we are…
By placing the blame on external factors, you are not acknowledging your own role in how you perceive and respond to certain situations.
It is important to recognize that you have the power to command your emotions and how you choose to react to different circumstances. Instead of pointing fingers, attempt to reflect on how you can take ownership of your feelings and actions, and work towards managing them in a more positive and constructive manner.
If reading this there's rejection, resistance, a feeling to not agree, that's something to be even more curious about. What's the positive intention behind the reaction of not standing in your own power and to continue to blame and complain about what other people say, think or do?
What if it's a protection? What if it's a way to brush what's needing healed or delt with off and it's leaving you emotionally dormant? You…
As funny yet complex human beings, we have a tendency to spend a significant amount of time and energy avoiding, suppressing, numbing out from and denying our emotions. We often try to escape from uncomfortable feelings by distracting ourselves with activities, substances, or even by pretending that everything is fine.
However, avoiding our emotions only leads to more inner turmoil and can prevent us from truly understanding ourselves and finding peace.
It is important to acknowledge and process our emotions in order to heal and grow as individuals. situations, people, or things that trigger us emotionally. This can be a natural response to protect ourselves from discomfort or pain. However, by constantly avoiding these triggers, we may find ourselves stuck in a cycle of fear and limitation.
Every emotion is valid, it's rooted in what you are thinking and believing in that moment, that is it. The event, person, place…
Great article! I am learning to understand my triggers, and why it elicits an uncomfortable emotion. Learning the "tools" on how understand and resolve triggers has been so valuable. No one is responsible for how I am feeling, but me!
This quote highlights the importance of perception and mindset in addressing challenges.
Often, our perception of a situation as a problem can be the biggest obstacle to finding a solution. By being open to seeing things from more than one angle, shifting our perspective, and embracing a more positive and proactive mindset, we can overcome obstacles more effectively and approach challenges with a sense of hope and possibility.
It is essential to recognize that sometimes what we perceive as problems are simply opportunities for learning and development. When we hit a wall or a sticky spot, it's a signal that's all. I love it when I find these because I know it's time to deepen my consciousness and look for the way through. Leaning in, versus running, hiding, suppressing, numbing out, avoiding, or just as bad, getting angry and resisting.
By getting curious we can unlock new doors and broaden…
Are your emotions being driven by the present moment, or by old stories and fears replaying in your mind?
It's important to recognize the source of our emotions in order to better understand and address them.
Knowing where they come from and how to navigate them is essential for having a healthy relationship with them and create a life that's rooted in peace(insert your own positive wording).
Sometimes our reactions are based on past experiences (known or forgotten) that have shaped our beliefs and perceptions. We don't need to know what exactly created a trigger, as this can take years to sort out and usually ends up pinning the blame on someone. This is disempowering and keeps you stuck in a negative feeling. It's like a dog chasing its tail. Simply understanding that your brain has logged an occurrence or possibly years of patterns, and a belief is formed as…
It's possible that the resistance you feel is actually a sign that you are on the brink of significant change and expansion.
When we lean in and get curious we are able to break through new barriers.
When we notice the resistance or negative feeling, we should see it as an inner voice, a protector attempting to keep us safe from the unknown. This takes the power or the grip out of the thought, reassuring that inner protector that this is indeed what we want, that it is safe, and that we are looking to move forward and grow.
Consider this time as an opportunity to push past the barrier of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities.
Embrace the discomfort, for it is often a precursor to breakthroughs and breakthroughs in personal development. Remember, growth rarely occurs within the confines of our comfort zones. So, perhaps this feeling of…
Responding and reacting are two separate actions that can greatly influence our relationships and overall mental, emotional and physical health.
Responding involves taking the time to consider a situation, gathering information, and then choosing the best course of action based on that information and considering your own personal values, morals, principles, and beliefs. It requires thoughtful reflection and the ability to weigh the consequences of your actions.
Responding allows for a more intentional and thoughtful approach to handling any given situation, rather than reacting impulsively. By responding instead of reacting, we can often make more informed decisions and act in a way that aligns with our values and goals. Leaving the situation with self-confidence and pride, knowing that what was said, done, or what behaviors were exhibited were in your own best interest. this does require thoughtfulness and self-awareness.
Some react when I point this out as time consuming and…
What sets these two groups apart is their thoughts, beliefs and attitude towards change and unpredictability. For those who think and belief a daily changes chaotic, they may struggle to cope, adapt and prefer routine and stability, likely would thrive on an assembly line with greater certainty and familiarity.
On the other hand, those who find it exciting, thrilling and maybe a rush may thrive on new challenges and opportunities for growth.
It ultimately comes down to individual's thoughts and what they are deeply believing.
Consider examining the underlying beliefs you hold about yourself or the situation that is causing your distress.
These beliefs will fuel your emotions and influence your reactions. By being aware of the underlying beliefs, and identifying and challenging these beliefs, you may be able to gain a new perspective and find ways to fuel the feelings you want to have.
In each session with different clients, I make a point to identify beliefs that they may not be aware of. To help raise awareness, I decided to include some common ones.
A belief is a subjective attitude that something is true, shaping how we perceive and interact with the world. Many of the beliefs that create suffering operate non-consciously, influencing thoughts, feelings, and actions without us even realizing it.
There are countless ways in which individuals can greatly improve their mental, emotional, and physical health. Notice how they have a sensory regulation component. We can become more conscious, awake, and feel ourselves when we activate one of our five senses for more than 3 seconds. (sight, smell, taste, hearing, feeling)
Below are 15 simple, low-cost (or free) activities that can greatly improve mental, emotional, and physical health any day of the week:
1. Take a Walk in Nature -Fresh air, movement, and natural surroundings reduce stress, boost mood, and improve heart health.
2. Practice Deep Breathing or Meditation -Even 5-10 minutes of deep breathing or mindfulness can lower anxiety, increase focus, and enhance relaxation.
3. Journal Your Thoughts & Gratitude -Writing down what’s on your mind or listing 3 things you’re grateful for can shift your mindset and boost positivity.
It is important to be conscious of who or what is influencing your emotional state, as giving away that power can have significant impacts on your well-being. Take a moment to reflect on whether it is a person, situation, or internal thought pattern that is dictating how you feel.
By recognizing and seeing what of these influence you the most, you can empower yourself to navigate your emotions in a more intentional and healthy way.
Remember, you have the ability to choose how you respond to external stimuli and ultimately hold the power to command your own emotional reactions.
Who or what are you allowing to hold sway over your emotions at this very moment?
If you're living a life where you're blaming people, places, things, situations, and circumstances for how you feel you're likely living a life that feels overwhelming, heavy, isolated, and uncertain... there's a whole different way…
Bingo and you'll lose yourself in the process. I see this a lot with first responders, nurses, teachers and stay at home mothers..
When we spend years, decades serving and putting others first we lose grip with our own values, principles, likes, desires and goals.. doesn't have to be this way.. it happens naturally unknowingly.
If you are constantly preoccupied with concerns about how others perceive you, it can inhibit your ability to freely express yourself and tap into your creative potential. When you allow fear of judgment to dictate your actions, you may find yourself holding back and not fully embracing your unique ideas and talents. It is important to remember that true creativity often comes from a place of authenticity and self-expression, without being overly influenced by external opinions. By letting go of the need for approval from others, you can unlock your creativity and bring forth truly…
Taking back your power and focusing on one trigger at a time and healing what causes you stress and anxiety, you will notice a gradual sense of calmness washing over you.
Each trigger that you address and overcome brings you closer to a state of inner peace and tranquility.(or insert other words to describe how you want to feel)
By acknowledging and working through these triggers, you are taking proactive steps towards improving your emotional well-being and achieving a greater sense of overall calmness in your life.
Remember that healing is a process, and with each trigger you heal, you are one step closer to a more serene and balanced state of mind.
Reacting is a natural response that we all experience from time to time. Ultimately it's learning to slow down and respond instead of react.
Reacting is from a place of fear, responding is from a place of love.
By taking the time to reflect on our values, morals, and principles before responding to a situation, we are able to act in a way that aligns with our beliefs. This not only helps us avoid making mistakes it also prevents us from overriding our morals and principles.
It is through consciousness, self-awareness, and intentional actions that we can increase emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is a skill that will uplevel every aspect of your life.
By taking that pause and reflecting on how our values align with the situation at hand, we are able to make more thoughtful and intentional decisions. This not only benefits ourselves, but also those around us as…
1) I am not required to set myself on fire to keep others warm.
2) Stop expecting YOU from others.
3) Everything happens for a reason, even if the reason is not clear to us at the time.