Being interested isn't what you get out of something, it's what you bring to the situation (good feeling)
Take a relationship, for instance. If you're loaded with an agenda, wanting and expecting something to come out of a relationship, there's a heaviness and awkwardness that will surely be felt by the other person. Suspicion will arise, weariness, confusion, a disconnect, uncertainty, and lack of trust will result. When we lead with a good feeling in relationships and that is all, that's where compassion, empathy, curiosity, connection, and understanding can thrive. It allows for a genuine connection to form, based on mutual respect and care for each other's well-being. This approach creates a positive and fulfilling dynamic in the relationship, where both parties feel valued and supported.
By focusing only on bringing positivity and sincerity to the relationship, we can cultivate a strong bond built on trust and understanding.
Having on your mind, in the front or the background that you expect, desire, strive, or hope for something specific to come out of a relationship can create unnecessary pressure and expectations. It can lead to disappointment and resentment if things don't go as planned.
On the other hand, approaching a relationship with an open heart and a genuine desire to connect with the other person allows for a more authentic and meaningful connection to develop. It allows for both individuals to be themselves, without the need to meet certain expectations or fulfill certain roles.
Relationships are a dance, lead with a good feeling.
What relationship may have someone leading with a loaded agenda or expectation?