The Cause isn't what you Think
If you believe the cause and effect of your negative feelings is coming from the people you come in contact with throughout your day, this feeling and cycle will get worse and worse over time.
Have you ever found yourself feeling down or frustrated after spending time with certain people in your life? It's a common thought, belief, and experience that we commonly attribute to the person and the interactions we have with others.
What if I told you that the cause of these feelings may not be what you think?
It's easy to fall into the trap of blaming our relationships for our emotional distress. We may believe that the toxic behavior of others is the root cause of our unhappiness. However, the reality is that's not possible. A person can't inject feelings into you. (I am not taking about abuse here, just average normal daily interactions)
The truth is that our emotions are not determined by the actions of those around us. While it's true that toxic relationships can have a negative impact on our well-being, it's important to recognize that our own thoughts and beliefs play a significant role in how we perceive and react to the world around us.
If you find yourself constantly feeling drained or upset after spending time with certain individuals, take a step back and ask yourself: is it really their behavior that's causing my negative feelings, or is there something deeper at play?
Perhaps your own insecurities or past experiences are influencing how you interpret the actions of others. Maybe you're projecting your own fears and anxieties onto those around you, leading to a cycle of negativity and resentment.
You can have impact over your feelings by how you relate to your thinking
It's important to remember that we have the power to change our perceptions and break free from negative patterns. By recognizing and acknowledging our ability to shift our mindset, we can begin to create a more positive and fulfilling life.
In addition, it's essential to understand that we have the freedom to choose how we spend our time and who we surround ourselves with. Surrounding ourselves with individuals who inspire and uplift us can have a profound impact on our overall well-being. When we choose to spend time around people who we find interesting, fascinating, intriguing, magnetic, and charming, we are more likely to experience joy, growth, and fulfillment in our lives. Conversely are you interesting, fascinating, intriguing, magnetic, and charming?
Embracing our agency and actively exercising our right to choose the company we keep can have profound effects on our overall well-being and happiness. By surrounding ourselves with individuals who inspire us to be better versions of ourselves, we open ourselves up to new opportunities for personal growth and development. These deeper connections can lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and contentment in our lives.
When we make the conscious decision to spend time with people who challenge us, support us, and encourage us to step out of our comfort zones, we create a positive feedback loop that fosters continuous growth and learning. These connections can provide us with valuable perspectives, insights, and experiences that enrich our lives and help us become more well-rounded individuals.
On the other hand, if we find ourselves in relationships that feel stagnant or unfulfilling, it may be time to reassess our priorities and make choices that align more closely with our values and aspirations. (this can be difficult at first but in the long run you'll be glad you did) Staying in connections out of a sense of obligation or duty can lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction that overflows in every area of your life.
By taking responsibility for our own time, energy, emotions and examining the root causes of our unhappiness, we can begin to cultivate healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
So the next time you find yourself feeling down after interacting with someone, remember that the cause of your negative feelings may not be what you think. Take a moment to reflect on your own thoughts and beliefs, and consider how you can shift your perspective to create more positive and empowering relationships in your life.