When we hold a person at fault in our mind, that’s all we see.
In the realm of relationships, it can be all too easy to fall into the trap of holding onto grudges, complaining and pointing fingers. When we allow ourselves to focus solely on the faults of our partner or loved ones, it can cloud our perception, become pessimistic and hinder our ability to see the bigger picture.
It's human nature to feel hurt and disappointed when someone we care about lets us down. However, it's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. When we are in a low mood, we can also start to push our agendas, rules, and "how things should be done" onto those that we care about, unknowingly.
When we hold a person at fault in our mind, that's all we see. We become fixated on their shortcomings and flaws, failing to appreciate their positive qualities and the love they bring into our lives.
The thing about the human brain is when we become focused on the the problems, it doubles down for it's negative and anything negative could jeopardize it's humans life(all it cares about). Then we become a problem expert.
Instead of dwelling on past grievances, it's vital to practice becoming warm, open hearted and seek to understand the other person by how they think, feel and believe. By becoming warm, open and forgiving those who have wronged us, we open ourselves up to healing and growth.
"Compassion is the highest form of love." - Dalai Lama
Communicating from compassion is key in resolving conflicts and moving forward together as a stronger and more connected unit.
What's your experience? What's an area that you're feeling hung up in your relationships?