We operate from the inside out, it sometimes appears as thought it's outside in.
Relationships are a complex and intricate dance of emotions, communication, and understanding. It's easy to get caught up in the external factors of a relationship, such as what the other person said or did, and attribute our feelings of upset or frustration to those external factors.
However, if we take a moment to pause and reflect, we may realize that the root of our upset lies within us.
We operate from the inside out, but it sometimes appears as though it's outside in.
This illusion can cloud our judgment and prevent us from truly understanding the dynamics of our relationships. The last time we got upset or frustrated with someone or in a situation, it's likely that the upset was generated from within us. It was fueled by the stories we told ourselves, the beliefs we held about what was said or done, and the meaning we assigned to the situation.
Taking things personally, making assumptions, and trying to protect ourselves are all common defense mechanisms that can distort our perception of a relationship. By acknowledging and addressing these internal factors, we can gain a deeper insight into our emotions and reactions. This self-awareness allows us to approach relationships with more empathy, understanding, and compassion.