Reactivity feels automatic because the mind practices it far more than presence. You replay, vent, brace, and without realizing it, your nervous system learns, “This is familiar. This is home.” The more you react, the more reactive you become. Not because you’re broken, but because repetition trains perception.

We don’t experience life as it is, we experience the story our mind layers on top of it. A flickering light, a missed text, a slammed door: neutral events that feel terrifying once our brain fills in the blanks. This blog unpacks the one question that cuts through fear maps and brings us back to presence, where peace was waiting all along.