The event ended.
That doesn’t always mean we stopped carrying it.

Sometimes what follows us isn’t what happened.
It’s:
What I should have said.
What they should have done.
Why I didn’t know better.
The apology I never got.
How differently things could have gone.

There’s a difference between remembering something and continuing to mentally participate in it.
This isn’t about telling yourself to “get over it.”
Some experiences deserve reflection, and some have real consequences.

The useful question is simpler: What from that experience is still active in your life today?
You may discover the past itself isn’t asking anything more of you.
Something you’re still carrying from it is.