Overthinking
September 9, 2026
When Your Mind Fills in the Blanks
A short text, silence, facial expression, or change in behavior can quickly become a much bigger story. This coaching insight explores the difference between what actually happened and the assumptions, interpretations, and predictions the mind adds when information is missing.
They sent “K.”
That’s what happened.
Then your mind added the tone, motive, hidden meaning, relationship forecast, and possibly a three-part documentary about where everything went wrong.
Our minds are remarkably fast at filling in missing information.
The tricky part is that the story can feel just as convincing as the facts.
Before reacting, separate the two:
What do you actually know?
What did your mind add?
Your interpretation might be right. It might not.
The point isn’t to convince yourself everything is fine. It’s to notice when you’ve started reacting to information you don’t actually have yet.