Overthinking
September 8, 2026
When Your Mind Starts Building a Case
Once a conclusion feels true, attention can begin collecting information that supports it while overlooking or explaining away information that doesn’t. This question helps separate what actually happened from the case the mind may already be building.
Once you believe, “They don’t care about me,” your mind can become an excellent detective.
They check their phone? Evidence.
They forget to ask about your day? Evidence.
They seem distracted? More evidence.
But are you still looking at what happened, or collecting proof for a conclusion that already feels true?
The conclusion may be right.
Their behavior still matters.
The coaching opportunity is noticing when you’ve stopped investigating and started building a case.
Because once the verdict is in, even contradictory evidence can get explained away.
What would you notice if you weren’t trying to prove either conclusion?